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A moment that changed me: I was shy and cared too much what people thought of me. Then a group of K-pop fans came into my life


From the moment I discovered Korean pop music in my 20s, I was hooked. But it took going to meet other fans to help me find my self-confidence – and my tribe

Yet at the K-pop party, Black girls wore bright makeup, band T-shirts and big smiles as they shared homemade photocards (trading cards, a little like football stickers), swapped badges and squealed when their favourite tracks were played. The fashion rubbed off on me too: black clothes stopped dominating my wardrobe as I added a red mohair scarf here, a Lucozade-orange balaclava there; I even bought a bomber jacket with pink flamingos all over it. Photograph: Booba Photography / KQ EntertainmentI had finally found my tribe, a group of friends I could message day or night about anything – not just K-pop – and feel completely supported.

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